Libido (or sexual desire) is characterized by the desire to have sexual intercourse. Libido does not necessarily depend on the person with whom one wishes to have intercourse, but depends solely on one's own psychological state at that specific moment.

Menopause or andropause in men can be responsible for a decrease in sexual desire. Whether in women or men, loss of interest in sex is generally linked to stress, fatigue, anxiety, depression, lack of communication in the relationship, hormonal imbalance due to the pill/onset of menopause for women, or low blood testosterone levels due to andropause. Discover how to overcome this with simple daily techniques.

For Women

Menopause can be a double-edged sword when it comes to libido: Some women may feel liberated because they are no longer afraid of getting pregnant "by accident", while others experience it very poorly and are forced to suffer the ill effects of this hormonal change: no more desire, no more orgasm, or no more excitement.

Use lubricants

The drop in estrogen during menopause can lead to vaginal dryness. As a result, this lack of lubrication can make sexual intercourse painful and unpleasant. The use of a lubricant can therefore improve intercourse and create more desire in the long term. There is a wide range of lubricants: gels, oils, water-based, capsules, etc. All you have to do is find the one that suits you best.

Experience pleasure alone

To combat a decrease in libido, there's nothing better than to experience pleasure alone in order to rediscover yourself sexually, at your own pace, and above all by doing things you truly enjoy. Little by little, your desire will multiply tenfold, and by taking pleasure alone, the desire to experience pleasure with a partner will come naturally afterward. To help you take the plunge, there are many stimulators that will reignite your flame. Don't rush yourself and take the time to listen to your body.

Take better care of yourself

If you feel uncomfortable in your skin or body, you may feel less desirable, and this can negatively impact your sexual desire. To avoid falling into this spiral, take time to take care of yourself: Change your wardrobe, opt for sexier and more feminine lingerie, exercise, regularly get facials and body treatments. By taking better care of yourself, you will feel better mentally and will be more inclined to have intercourse afterward.

Join a women's discussion group

Finally, ladies, do not neglect your feelings and emotions. Entering menopause is not an easy thing, and many of you find this period of your life difficult. To better overcome all this, talk to other women, women who are like you, perhaps with the same problems, the same drop in libido, etc. Or even with women who have managed to overcome this period and who can thus give you their best advice. So don't hesitate and talk about it with your loved ones, your family or on women's forums.

For Men

Andropause can lead to low testosterone levels in the blood, thus causing erectile dysfunction, lack of desire or attraction for their partner, decreased energy, and loss of concentration.

Take better care of yourself

As with women, taking care of oneself can be a decisive factor in controlling and revitalizing one's libido. Indeed, a man can also feel uncomfortable in his own skin and thus feel less attractive. But don't worry, gentlemen, adopt simple gestures that will help you regain control over yourself: exercise to stay in shape, take care of your beard, opt for a new clothing style that is more suitable for your age but still trendy, also perform facial and body treatments to feel fresher and regain self-esteem.

Better stress management

Stress and anxiety can be crucial factors in erectile dysfunction in men. Indeed, whether it's financial stress, work-related stress, or simply the daily grind, the combination of all can have a direct impact on your sexual desire and your ability to get an erection. Therefore, learn to control and manage your stress as best as possible to reduce the risks. To do this, take a few minutes in your day to relax with our anti-stress mat or simply with a massager to release your tensions.

Improve your lifestyle

Along the same lines as the previous point, improving your lifestyle will also have an impact on your libido. Better sleep improves your overall mood and helps you recharge your energy, thus invigorating you to be in a better state for intimacy. Eating healthily while prioritizing lipids (avocados), omega-3s, almonds, or olive oil can also boost libido.

Opt for food supplements

There are many medications that can help you achieve a better erection; moreover, there are also food supplements, which are generally more natural, that can help you maintain your performance in this area. You can go directly to a pharmacy to get these food supplements. Opt for food supplements based on fenugreek, maca, tribulus terrestris, or ginkgo biloba.

For Couples

Undergo couple's therapy

It can happen that both partners in a couple experience a decrease in libido at the same time; this does not necessarily result from a lack of love but can be resolved with a healthcare professional specializing in sexual relationships between couples - a sexologist.

Set aside time for two

Whether it's due to children, work, or everyone's individual commitments, couples sometimes end up spending less time together. Therefore, there's nothing better than planning moments reserved solely for the two of you to rekindle the flame between you.

Spice up your couple's life

Routine can have a big impact on a couple's life, so don't let it creep into your lives at the risk of suffering the consequences. Spice up your couple's life to regain your libido together. To do this, use sex toys, opt for different locations, try role-playing games or naughty games.

Communicate more with your partner

Finally, C.O.M.M.U.N.I.C.A.T.I.O.N! It's the key to everything. Discuss with your partner your desires for change, your sexual desires, your wishes, and any areas to improve or correct. Don't let problems accumulate; talk about them together.